The Most Important 1 in 350,000… A Letter to my Child

Dear Baby Goldberg,

This week is the last week you get to call mummy’s womb, home.

The last week we get to cram for our final exam in parenting, re-watching videos, rereading books, and tidying the nursery.

The last week that your mum and I spend talking about what to expect in terms of how you’ll look, what your demeanour will be like, how Party will handle you, and how to prepare for all the other unknowns.

This week will be the last week before all of our lives change… and I couldn’t be happier.

the world counts

When you arrive you will be one in 350,000 babies born that day… but to us, you will by far be the most important, and the most anticipated.

In one respect, the last 10 months have been a blur, yet on the other hand, they have also dragged on for an eternity. This being our first pregnancy, we didn’t know what to expect regardless of the countless articles, and numerous discussions with parents, friends, and colleagues.

As the weeks went by, levels of anxiety grew, yet as each milestone passed we breathed a sigh of relief. Every Friday marked the passing of a stage in your development and mummy and I have been writing in her pregnancy journal religiously, every week, with updates on how the process has been.

We wrote stories for you and letters to you, so that one day when we look back, we can remember every moment of this pregnancy. The scary bout with food poisoning that debilitated us for 2 full days. The heat waves that mummy and I had to push through with no air conditioning in the house while the temperatures hovered above 40 degrees. The time we painted your nursery and for some strange reason the paint drying made the room smell like dill pickles for 3 weeks. Or even the time I tried to hear your heartbeat by resting my head on mummy’s belly… and you kicked me in the face!

If you think back longer term, 10 months is just a snippet of a series of events that transpired that led to the creation of you, our little angel.

The more I think about that, the more I keep thinking about Newton’s law, that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It can be consuming to think about it, but all of the life experiences that your mum and I have gone through to lead to your creation and birth are astounding. All the people we’ve met, all the choices we’ve made, all the actions that have led to equal and opposite reactions, just for mummy and I to meet, fall in love, commit to each other and bring you into this world.

It’s undeniable.

You have purpose.

You are meant for great things.

I’m going to tell you what it means to be a Goldberg… if mummy gets a blog, she can tell you about being a Wong, but I’ll take a stab at that too.

Firstly, when I tell you that you are a Goldberg, you must realize that you are the last of the lineage, as during World War II, the rest of the family changed their names to Gould, so for what it’s worth, your namesake is unique in its importance.

You have the bloodline of both the Goldberg genes and Burke genes – both with their own strengths; both with their unique nuances.

As a Burke, you are scholarly. Your great grandfather was a educator, rabbi, and teacher. Your bubby followed closely in his footsteps and became the same. Your great uncles and aunts, cousins and distant relatives, all from the Burke lineage are accomplished, educated, learned people who achieve at their highest potential and follow their passions in life.

The Burke genes within you, help define your urge to listen to your heart and truly be a person of spirit and passion.

As a Goldberg, you are resolute and purposeful. The Goldberg’s are determined, and unwavering in their pursuit of success and achievement. With this steadfast methodology, there is also an approach to life that is well thought out and structured in its manner. Decisions are made with careful thought and options are evaluated.

The combination of Burke/Goldberg on its own, leads to an individual who is both purposeful and passionate; educated and decisive; accomplished and gratified.

On its own, this combination is quite powerful, but add to that the Wong lineage and you are our little masterpiece.

From what I see in mummy and her family, I can tell you that the Wong’s bring caring, kindness, generosity, and unconditional love to a level that make all in their surroundings, blessed. Also, the innate ability to parent, shelter, nurture, and support one another creates a cocoon of safety and comfort such that no matter what life throws at you, you know you’ll always be ok.

Since both of our sets of parents have divorced for some time now, new relationships and expanded families have been developed, further enhancing all of our lives, and influencing the people we’ve become. These influencers will continue in your life, making you an even more well rounded human being, and therefore so much more capable of achieving everything you would like to.

As your father, I make this promise to you:

I will do everything in my power to ensure that you have everything in life that you will ever need. I will love you unconditionally, shelter you from harm, and support you as a father should. I want to teach you everything I know, and give you the tools to learn about this planet, how to live on it, deal with it, thrive on it, and contribute to it.

One of my own personal goals is to continue with my blog and twitter feed, both as an information source for other fathers out there, but also as a diary for you and I.

I have very fragmented memories of my childhood. Sometimes I try and think of what my earliest memory is, but I’m unsure if it’s genuine, or merely based on a photo album flashing through my mind. It frustrates me that others need to remind me of my own life events as I struggle to dive into the depths of my memories.

I need this blog for me.

I need this blog for you.

I need this blog because you are the passion in life that I’ve been searching for, and this is the medium to tell the story and never forget a second of it.

I thank whatever divine intervention there was that played a role and put all the events into sequence that eventually will be bringing you into my arms, because once I’ve got you, I will never let you go.

You are my 1 in 350,000 for the day, but my one and only first born for life.

All of my love,

Daddy

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