I remember the first time reality set in that I was going to be a father.
It wasn’t from reading the results of the Clearblue test, or even when we got back our first ultrasounds. It was at around the 11 week mark when we told Becca’s family over dinner, that we were expecting.
Plates were circling and I offered Becca’s sister food from one of the dishes to which she replied, “no, no… daddy first.”
I paused and waited, trying to figure out who she meant, then finally realized she was talking about me.
I was going to be a daddy.
I’ve waited for so long and now couldn’t be a better time – I have a partner that I love, cherish, and adore; we have a house, careers, support, and our health.
My father was 35 when he had me. And now here I am, 35 years later, starting my path through parenthood.
Thanks to my upbringing and the people in my life, I have a strong idea of what should and should not be done in order to raise good upstanding human beings… of course, it’s all so easy to say.
I will look to my parents for guidance and support, but I will also look to my friends. The same friends who used to queue up for hours to get front row concert tickets, or help sneak 2-4’s of beer into my bedroom closet as a teen, now will be comparing stroller models and where to get the best return for my child’s RESP.
Things have changed, but I couldn’t be happier. I can’t wait to meet my child.
My name is Ben, but soon you can call me Dad.